From A “Stupid Selfish Teenager” To Her Dead Father

Dear Dad,

I’m sorry I wasn’t there for you when you were ill. I was a stupid selfish teenager and didn’t handle it well.

I never got to thank you for all you did for our family to give us a good life and for that, I apologize.

I apologize that we didn’t get to know each other better and that a lot of the time I blamed you for the hot mess of our dysfunctional family. I deeply apologize and hope to make it up to you one day.

I feel like you are always with me.

Love,

Your Daughter

An Apology From A Woman To Her Ex-Husband

Alex,

I’m sorry things didn’t work out the way we planned. I’m sorry I could never be good in the ways you needed me to be. I’m sorry I got caught up in my life and myself and forgot to care for you in the ways you needed to feel cared for and loved.

I’m sorry for all the drunken nights and pitiful days, and broken promises and unspoken expectations and unresolved frustrations.

I’m sorry I didn’t fight for what I needed to be happy. That I bottle up all of my disappointments and let them self-destruct.

I’m sorry I’m a mess and I’m sorry I couldn’t be more open and honest with you. I’m sorry things didn’t work out.

I’m sorry I never believed enough or trusted enough or loved enough. I’m sorry we fell apart, and I’m sorry we still haven’t talked about it.

I’m sorry I can’t be with you today, right now, and always.

I’m sorry forever wasn’t forever.

I love you. I miss you. I’m sorry.

Kera Carter. 6th Grade.

IMG_1126.JPGDear Kera,

I’m sorry that I tried to make myself feel better about being an outcast by making fun of you (over being an outcast.)

It’s not just these actions but the added pain of putting you down with hateful words. I knew what I was doing and I didn’t care.

We were the same, expect I didn’t but I didn’t want to be and I knew it. You, from what I could tell, were less touched by all of it.

I am sorry for what I thought, for what I wrote, and for what I assumed was true for your experience.

Amanda

 

Because I Am A Little Broken Inside

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A Simple Apology

Truths that haunt.

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How To Apologize and Mean It

How to apologizeDuring stressful times, anyone can accidentally say or do something to hurt someone’s feelings.

The good news is there are some simple things you can do to repair the relationship.

The most effective way is to apologize.

Below, I will share with you how to apologize and mean it.

Make it genuine. 

Anyone can spot a backhanded apology and it will do more harm than good.

For example, “If I offended you, I apologize.” is a fake apology: It’s like stealing someone’s wallet, and saying, “I’m sorry if you felt you were inconvenienced.”

A genuine apology is aimed solely at taking responsibility, not implying that the other person is somehow at fault.

Know what you’re apologizing for.

“I’m sorry” means absolutely nothing if you don’t know what you are apologizing for.

If you don’t already know, ask the person.

There’s a huge difference between saying, “I’m sorry,” and, “I’m sorry I made fun of your new haircut. It was insensitive of me, and I didn’t mean to hurt you.”

Don’t make excuses. excuses

Excuses push the blame onto someone or something else, and it weakens the apology.

Sure, a brief explanation may help understanding, but if you are busy explaining why you did what you did, it will start to sound like you aren’t apologizing at all.

Back what you say with what you do.

An apology is an admittance of wrong-doing, not a free pass to do it again.

In fact, if you can’t commit to changing the action or words you’re apologizing for, don’t apologize.

“Sorry I kept you waiting so long,” will be a hollow and ineffective apology if you keep doing it.

You’re better off thanking the other person, “Thanks for your patience, I appreciate it.” and taking it from there.

youApologize for them, not for you.

The mistake many people make when apologizing is that they expect forgiveness.

This is not about you; it’s about the person you hurt.

Some people will behave indifferently, some will behave coldly, and some will react in a downright hostile way.

You can’t get angry or defensive.

If the person declines your apology, you have to let it go and realize it’s their prerogative.

If you apologized sincerely, you have done all you can do.

13-Year-Old Apologizes to Parents

does-an-apology-mean-sorry1I like to apologize to my parents for everything I did that was not pleasing to you. You have given me everything that I have ever needed including your unconditional love. I don’t know how I could ever repay you. I love you both and thank you for you wisdom, advice and love.

Love,

Brianna